Surrender vs. Force

We sometimes think of surrender as just letting go. Why does it feel like whenever we "let something go" it just comes back again later?

Most of my life I spent mastering the art of letting something go. I would take a breath and put the worry out of my mind. I got very good at this. I thought that this was what surrendering was. I thought that the best we could do is just feel okay in the moment knowing something would inevitably come back again later. I thought this was healing. I did not know that something could actually heal permanently. Until I started doing the real inner work, I was just using the line "let it go" or "it is what it is" as a way to bypass my own feelings.

For the past two years I have taken the art of "letting go" to a new level. Instead of letting something go, I invite it in. I pay close attention to what the situation is bringing up in me. Is there fear? Is there anxiousness? Anger? Let down? Hurt? I invite this into my heartspace to heal. I then call in the way of Surrender. Surrender is an energy frequency that can be blocked when we are not in flow with our current experience. 

Feel the energy of the words control, resistance, expectation, force...you can feel the constriction in your body, maybe some anxiousness. 

Now feel the energy of the words surrender, flow, openness. The latter are the type of energies we need to cultivate in our lives. This starts by going into what comes up within us when things don't "go as planned". When the outcome is not what you expected, when circumstances are not what you want. We are scared of what we will feel so we avoid it with control, with resistance. We RESIST the fear. we RESIST the self doubt, the loneliness, the uncertainty. We have been taught to resist the emotional pain, the uncomfortable feelings that come with needing to control the situation. I can speak from my own experience that to avoid feeling anxiousness or fear, I learned to control my scenario to the point that if something were to go differently, I would have a really hard time dealing with the emotional turmoil it would bring up. 

When you have resistance to what is, you are unable to be in flow with the universe. This means you are not in flow with the gifts and widom and synchronicities the universe has to  offer. You can not flow out of any situation you are in. Sometimes we are provided with an opportunity to become more healed and whole though appears to be a set back in our life. I can't tell you how many times a perceived "shitty situation" was a beautiful lesson in disguise. When you surrender, you surrender to every emotion that is brought up within. When you surrender and open your heart to the anxiety, the fear, the uncertainty and bring love to it, it makes room for your intuition, for your inspiration to come online.

"When surrendered, you have faith that the Universe will bring to you the people, conversations, solutions, insights and opportunities in the perfect divine timing. There is no more stressing out or pushing to make things happen. Surrender allows things to come to you with ease, for it puts you in a position of receptivity and removes all resistance to what's coming your way. Surrender is a step towards emotional freedom."

- Rachel Fiori The 20 Universal Ways of Oneness

With love,

Madison